This morning at the breakfast table, my daughter looked at me with big shinning eyes telling me that she rode a unicorn. Children have wonderful imaginations, and they present fantasies as truths. I believe most adults, if not all adults told lies when they were kids, from there is a monster under my bed that ate my homework to many other little lies.
I smiled at my daughter and asked her if it really happened or does she wish it happened. She thought about it a bit and then answered, “It is not true, but I wish it was”. I believe that one should not discourage children’s imagination, but rather help your children learn to recognize that they can tell wonderful stories if they make it clear that they are not true.
Kids often tries to avoid consequences, they can look you straight in the eye and tell you that they did not eat a slice of cake, even if the white frosting is all over their face. Should you catch your child lying, try to offer them the opportunity to tell the truth by saying “I will give you a minute to think about what you just told me then I am going to ask you again what really happened”. This will give them the opportunity to think about it and often they will confess the truth. When they are honest, tell them that you appreciate their honesty even if it was hard to share.
Should your child make it a habit to lie to stay out of trouble, maybe try to examine your discipline as sometimes too harsh discipline turns children into good liars. Children that are fearful of their parent’s reaction are often more likely to tell lies.
Children that lie outright often try to mask their insecurities to fit in with their peers and to impress their friends. In this case a child might need a boost to their self-esteem, by explaining to them about the consequences of bragging and working on their social skills will help them find ways to connect to their friends without lying.
To help build your child’s self-esteem, try enrolling them at First Touch FC as participating in football helps to create a happy mood and reduces stress. Football teaches kids skills such as perseverance, decision making, and teamwork that they can apply to all aspects of their lives. Children learn to weather the ups and downs of life and how to work with their peers to solve problems.
Football teaches children more than just the rules of play, it provides children the tools that translate into other aspects of their life. Football requires fast action, the ability to work with a team and quick thinking, these skills help children to stay focused and productive in their personal lives.
Adults must remember that they are the role model in their kids lives and even that little white lie about the age of your child to get them a discount at a sports event will teach them that lying is fine.